"Your intuition was never the problem. The part of you that kept giving people ‘one more chance’ after the red flags was the one that needed protecting."
How many times have you said, “I knew something was off,” only after everything fell apart?
There is a quiet part of you that usually speaks first – a gut feeling, a subtle tension, a small voice that whispers, “Something isn’t right.” That part is your intuition. It notices patterns and inconsistencies long before your mind has enough evidence to build a case. Most of the time, your intuition is not the issue. The problem is the part of you that keeps handing out one more chance after the red flags stack up.
Often, that over-extending part learned early that love, safety, or approval came from being understanding, forgiving, and endlessly flexible. It was praised for seeing the best in people, for being patient, for not “giving up too soon.” So when red flags appear – broken promises, shifting stories, subtle disrespect – you override your body’s signals with explanations. Maybe they had a rough day. Maybe you are being too sensitive. Maybe you owe them another chance.
Every time you do this, your system pays the price. You feel the anxiety. You feel the confusion. You feel the slow erosion of self-trust. It is not that your intuition stopped working. It is that you stopped listening, because you did not want to be the one who walked away, disappointed someone, or admitted that your hope was misplaced.
Repair begins when you stop blaming your intuition and start protecting the part of you that keeps stretching past its limits. You do that by taking your first red or even amber flag seriously. You start pausing when your body tightens instead of talking yourself out of it. You treat your early discomfort as evidence, not an inconvenience. Over time, your inner message shifts from “I always see the signs too late” to “I listen the first time my intuition speaks.”
