"Healing looks like choosing rest over resentment, even when anger feels justified."
Ever notice how exhausting it is to stay angry at someone who doesn't even care? Healing doesn't mean your anger wasn't valid. It means choosing rest over carrying that weight forever.
Anger is often justified. Someone hurt you, disrespected you, or betrayed your trust. You have every right to feel what you feel. But here's the hard truth: holding onto resentment doesn't punish them. It punishes you. They've moved on while you're still carrying the weight of what they did.
Healing looks like choosing rest over resentment. Not because they deserve your peace, but because you do. Rest doesn't mean forgetting what happened or pretending it didn't hurt. It means refusing to let their actions take up permanent space in your mind. It means putting down the anger because carrying it is costing you more than it's costing them.
The tricky part is that anger can feel productive. It keeps you alert, keeps you from getting hurt again. But there's a difference between protecting yourself and punishing yourself. You can set boundaries without staying bitter. You can remember the lesson without replaying the pain.
Choosing rest over resentment is an act of self-preservation. It's deciding that your energy is too valuable to spend on people who no longer deserve access to it. It's recognizing that healing isn't about being the bigger person. It's about being free.
Your anger was valid. Your healing is too.
